Determining whether to move forward with a divorce is a decision that needs to be made wisely and should be made based on legitimate reasoning. Divorce is a long, emotional process and the decision to divorce should not be taken lightly or made impulsively. It is important to note that there is always time to change your mind, even if the divorce train is well on its way. Regardless of your situation, it is always a good option to work on the relationship before making a final decision to divorce, especially if the following applies:
1. You waiver about divorce: If you waiver over whether to divorce or not, it is better to err on the side of caution and try working on the relationship before opting for divorce. When you waiver, it perhaps it is a sign that there remains confusion over whether this is the best decision for you and your family and there is still an attachment to the idea of remaining in the relationship.
2. You have not yet thought through the entire process: If you have not thought through the entire process of divorce, you may not be ready for a divorce. It is important to do things such as: thinking through the entire process includes reading articles and books that outline what you can expect in a divorce and also talking to friends about their experiences in a divorce can also help you through the process. Making an appointment with experts like your financial planner may also be a good idea so you know what your financial picture will look like in a divorce. What about your children and how it will affect them? Would you move and if so, what schools would your children be enrolled in if you and your spouse divorce? Will your spouse agree with your decision to move because if he/she does not agree, it could turn into a very litigious and expensive divorce. And most importantly, do you still love your spouse? Imagine a life without this person and go from there.
3. You and your spouse are willing to try counseling: It is important that before you make a final decision to divorce, that you and your spouse have exhausted all avenues of repairing your relationship. One option to assist and heal your relationship is through counseling, whether it be individual therapy or couples therapy. It is important to remember though, that therapy is not a quick fix for your relationship, but it requires time, energy and financial investment. Thus, you and your spouse need to be willing to put in the time and effort in therapy to try and make the relationship work.
The decision to divorce should not be taken lightly since it will be a life-altering event. Consider some of the key points outlined above and make sure you make an informed, rational decision before taking this course of action.